Sexual Violence: Men & Boys
An estimated 1.5 million U.S. men have experienced completed or attempted rape during their lifetime.
Adult Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse
Recovering from sexual abuse that occurred as a child can be difficult. Abusers often blame the survivor, threaten or bribe the child into not speaking up or convince the child that he will not be believed. For many, it takes years to understand what happened and realize that it was not their fault. The reactions of each survivor are different, but common responses to child sexual abuse include:
Feelings of shame and guilt
Anxiety or panic attacks
Drug and alcohol abuse
It is important to remember that it is never too late to seek help. You can help to manage the affects the abuse may have had on your life.
Intimate Partner Violence
Intimate partner violence (IPV) involves a range of violent acts such as physical abuse, emotional abuse, and sexual abuse. Men are affected by IPV from both male and female partners. Studies show that 1 in 7 men have experienced severe IPV from a partner in their lifetime (National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, 2010).
Tactics used by a sexually-abusive partner include:
Using drugs or alcohol to force you into unwanted sexual activity.
Telling you to do sexual activities in order to "prove" that you are a man.
Commenting on, Touching, groping or grabbing body parts in a sexual way when you do not want them to.
Reactions and Feelings After an Assault.
If you have experienced sexual violence, you could be going through a wide variety of emotions such as anger, sadness, or rage. You may also experience difficulties in personal relationships. It is normal to feel any number of things at any given times.
There are many misconceptions about men and sexual violence because of the messages society or culture tells us about what it means to be a man. You should know:
Anyone can be sexually assaulted- including mean and boys. Sexual violence crosses all demographic boundaries.
Sexual assault is never the victim's fault. Being a victim of sexual assault does not mean one is weak.
Systems of supports are available for men including medical care, counseling, peer support groups, social services, police and the criminal courts and civil court remedies.
90% of the time, the boy knows his abuser.
Most men who abuse boys define their sexual orientation as heterosexual.
If you or someone you know has been the victim of sexual violence, call 1-888-772-PCAR in Pennsylvania or the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE.
Help & Resources
The Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape:
Founded in 1975, PCAR works to end sexual violence and advocate for the rights and needs of sexual assault victims.
PCAR partners with a network of rape crisis programs to bring help, hope and healing around issues of sexual violence to the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania.
PCAR assures that communities have access to quality victim services and prevention education by providing funding, training, materials and assistance to rape crisis programs and resources and training on sexual assault-related issues to professionals across the Commonwealth. PCAR works with media and protections and services to victims of sexual violence, holds offenders accountable, and enhances community safety.
To learn more about sexual violence or to locate rape crisis centers on PA, visit www.pcar.org or call 1-888-772-PCAR (7227
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:
Founded by the Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape in 2000, the National Sexual Violence Resource Center identifies, develops and disseminates resources regarding all aspects of sexual violence prevention and intervention. For information and resources on sexual violence and prevention, visit www.nsvrc.org.
1 in 6: 1 in 6 helps men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. The organization provides information and support resources on the web and in the community. Visit http://1in6.org for more information.
MaleSurvivor: MaleSurvivor is committed to preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through support, treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism. Visit www.malesurvivor.org to learn more.
Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual child Abuse: This book by Mike Lew examines the changing cultural activities toward male survivors of incest and other sexual trauma. The publication offers compassionate and practical advice to survivors.